Today I learnt about learned helplessness.
- Practice healthy coping, problem-solving, fear-desensitizing and conflict-resolving behaviors.
- Learn “normal” coping behaviors from others who are in a healthier place than yourself.
Be patient and persistent in your efforts to break the vicious cycle.
D. What irrational, unhealthy beliefs keep you in your role of helplessness with each of these people and in each of the “helpless to overcome” issues in your life?
- Fear of failure. Inferiority complex.
- Sense of helplessness to break out of the vicious cycle of my life/family
- Fear of absolute poverty/declining health & well-being
E. Identify why it is so difficult for you to accept personal responsibility for helping yourself to overcome each of the problems, fears, issues and conflicts over which you currently feel helpless.
- Fear of failure and feeling of being a loser
- Ingrained belief and habit of learned helplessness
- Default avoidance coping mechanism
F. Identify the benefits of taking personal responsibility for helping yourself on your own and under your own power and control.
- Feeling of empowerment
- Lesser anxiety and toxicity of vicious cycle in life
- Greater confidence & self-esteem
- Greater sense of financial security
G. Identify the negative effects of remaining helpless as you face your current problems, fears, conflicts and issues.
- Declining mental well-being and overall health
- Declining sense of overcoming adversity in life
- Declining financial health
H. Identify why your efforts in the past to overcome your sense of helplessness failed. What did you lose in your life when you became more capable of helping yourself?
- Still fumbling with self-discipline
- Battling with inner voice of self-doubt and fears
- Greater sense of empowerment and control over reactivity to problems
- More resilient and confident when I become more capable of helping myself
I. What are the benefits for you in remaining helpless in your current problems, fears, issues and conflicts?
J. Identify which of your current relationships are based on feeling helpless. How would these relationships change once you ceased acting, thinking and feeling helpless? How does the potential change in your current relationships keep you “hooked” into remaining helpless?
- Strained and irritable interactions with my parents
- Trapped and sense of hopelessness for family future
- No aid in progress and advancement in life if I choose to persist so