It’s a powerful statement of her vision for her life and her work. It’s also a reminder of how energizing being so clear on your purpose–knowing absolutely the reason you get up and do the things you do each day–can be. Your intention could be wildly different from Winfrey’s, but her experience suggests that spending the time to reflect on your fundamental goals (Winfrey mentions that journaling helped her clarify her thoughts) can yield immense benefits. Perhaps Zukav’s books could help you figure out your intention too.
– My intention is to love what I am doing and to do what I love from achieving my doing. I want to achieve my financial independence and future freedom to pursue higher quality of life and living. I want to become a person I strive to be proud of instead of envying others’ success.
“I wouldn’t change anything because you know our successes are one thing, but our failures are every bit as important. Our failures are what teach us and lead us to the next thing. And there’s no forward momentum or evolution without either.”
Start thinking (and truly believing) that life is a compilation of mini experiments.
- “NOT Yet!” – sends message that I am on a learning curve and on a path to success instead of receiving the message of “full-stop — you are going nowhere.”
If we start thinking about our lives this way, we have a much greater potential of eventually reaching our goals even when it doesn’t happen the first time around.
Aim for improvement, not perfection.
- The point is not to be the best at everything you do — enjoy the ride and take note of the people you are meeting, the learning you are doing and the personal growth that is happening along the way.
Step outside your comfort zone.
- It is the only way to make changes on a daily basis that affect our lives for the better. You may also fail at first, but if you stay in the “scary” place of optimal anxiety, you may find yourself taking important risks that you never thought you would do. Truly successful people believe in the power of this fear, and they never stay in the comfort zone.
A progressive mentality doesn’t mean that you’ll never experience major setbacks, or even utter failure–which can deliver vital lessons and invaluable experience. (Just ask Musk, or any successful entrepreneur, how many times he’s gotten it wrong before getting it right.) Additionally, reflecting on how far you’ve come can provide necessary motivation.
But there’s danger in keeping focused on the rear-view mirror, so to speak.
It eventually leads to a crash.
To maintain a mentality of moving forward, you must:
- resist needlessly dwelling on mistakes and instead identify lessons learned and move on;
- continue to set challenging yet reachable goals–especially after scoring big;
- aspire, not to be a know-it-all, but rather to be a learn-it-all; and
- never give up. Ever.
This is my cause of laziness!
Loss of Heart
The laziness of loss of heart is characterized by vulnerability, woundedness, and not knowing what to do. We tried just being ourselves and we didn’t measure up. The way we are is not okay. We chased after pleasure and found no lasting happiness. We took time off, went on vacation, learned to meditate, studied spiritual teachings, or spent years dedicated to certain political or philosophical views. We helped the poor or saved the trees or drank or took drugs, and we found no satisfaction. We tried and we failed. We came to a painful, hopeless place. We don’t even want to move. We feel we could gladly sleep for a thousand years. Our life feels meaningless. Loss of heart is so painful that we become paralyzed.
Healing from Loss of Heart~
We join our loss of heart with honesty and kindness. Instead of pulling back from the pain of laziness, we move closer. We lean into the wave. We swim into the wave.
We are sitting in front of the television eating chips, drinking beer, smoking cigarettes. Hour after hour after hour we sit there. Then for some reason, we see ourselves clearly. We have the choice to eat the tenth bag of chips and watch the sixteenth sitcom, or to relate with our depression and laziness in an honest and openhearted way. Instead of continuing to zone out and shut down and close off, we lean in and relax. This is how we practice.
So maybe we open the window or go out for a walk, or maybe we sit silently, but whatever we do, it occurs to us to stay with ourselves, to go behind the words, behind the ignoring, and to feel the quality of this moment of being, in our hearts, in our stomachs, for ourselves, and for all of the millions of others in the same boat. We start to train in openness and compassion toward this very moment. This very moment of laziness becomes our personal teacher. This precious moment becomes our profound and healing practice.
6. Accept that you will feel uncomfortable
Resistance is the force that tries to prevent growth and transformation, and you’re going to experience a lot of it when you start something new. Shield says that ultimately we are scared of change, so we create resistance which pushes us away from doing things that are good for us. She encountered a lot of resistance when she decided to quit her job, but she learned not to let it take charge of her.
“The only reason we get drawn back into old patterns is because of familiarity and comfort,” Shield said. “Whoever grew by being comfortable? It doesn’t happen.”