Unlearn Experential Avoidance


Experiential avoidance involves ongoing attempts to avoid thoughts, feelings, memories, or physical sensations–even when doing so is costly or harmful.

The more that we try to avoid these so-called negative experiences, the worse feelings we create.

When you immerse yourself in your work to avoid feelings of inadequacy, or when you donate money to charity to push away thoughts of selfishness, these acts will fail to bring you the deep sense of fulfillment you desire. You won’t find these activities satisfying because your primary motivation is to avoid unpleasant thoughts and feelings, rather than enjoy the moments themselves.

Intention is everything–and when you seek to avoid unwanted experiences, you drain the joy of being present. You become oriented to the past and continue inviting negative experiences into your life.

If you want to attract abundance in 2017, then you need to start by practicing one simple habit: making room for uncomfortable experiences.


Stop Ruminating!

People who ruminate experience more depression and anxiety, which are, in turn, associated with shorter telomeres.

Avoidance alone is probably not enough to harm telomeres, but it can lead to chronic stress arousal and depression, both of which may shorten your telomeres.


Thought awareness can promote stress resilience. With time, you learn to encounter your own ruminations or problematic thoughts and say, “That’s just a thought. It’ll fade.” That is a secret about the human mind: We don’t need to believe everything our thoughts tell us. Or, as the bumper sticker says, “Don’t believe everything you think.”

Secret to true confidence 

Opt out of the vicious race of comparing to others and becoming critical in our self-judgements!


“The only people who desire to be better than everyone else are those who feel inferior. The need to ‘outshine’ everyone is actually born of fear and weakness, not strength,” he believes. If, instead of wanting to beat others, you want to be kind to them, to understand them, to feel goodwill towards them, your insecurity will melt away, McManus claim.

You don’t need more motivation or inspiration to create the life you want. You need less shame around the idea that you’re not doing your best. You need to stop listening [when] people who are in vastly different life circumstances and life stages than you tell you that you’re just not doing or being enough,” she writes. Quit comparing and just be where you are, she advises.

Another story relatable!

This could be me. 
After the devastation of my marriage breakdown, I was wrecked emotionally and physically. My mental health and sanity was pushed helter skelter. I was so fearful and certain that I would be struck with cancer during my episode of mental breakdown.

Her journey wrote was somewhat like mine. I had bucket list made in my mind and I went on few trips then, fueled by my wanderlusting thirst. I also had same revelations in life. That I was awakened to be someone who thrives to survive in life instead of being helpless victim of life circumstances. Her storytelling struck a chord in me.

I read and I related

http://www.contiki.com/six-two/travel-helped-overcome-depression-anxiety/Her telling of her struggles are similar somewhat to mine. 

My 3 indicative symptoms of a troubled mind with mental dis-cognition is :

1) My personal space is cluttered and messy. It needs cleaning far more frequently than I can manage. 

2) Procrastination and lack of energy to get life in sorts and in flow. Brain fuzz!

3) Lack of “voice aloud”. The strength in your voice subsides. Ordering a coffee is a challenge in my soft voice. To make matters worse, I slur words sometimes.