Experiential avoidance involves ongoing attempts to avoid thoughts, feelings, memories, or physical sensations–even when doing so is costly or harmful.
The more that we try to avoid these so-called negative experiences, the worse feelings we create.
When you immerse yourself in your work to avoid feelings of inadequacy, or when you donate money to charity to push away thoughts of selfishness, these acts will fail to bring you the deep sense of fulfillment you desire. You won’t find these activities satisfying because your primary motivation is to avoid unpleasant thoughts and feelings, rather than enjoy the moments themselves.
Intention is everything–and when you seek to avoid unwanted experiences, you drain the joy of being present. You become oriented to the past and continue inviting negative experiences into your life.
If you want to attract abundance in 2017, then you need to start by practicing one simple habit: making room for uncomfortable experiences.