Stop Ruminating!

People who ruminate experience more depression and anxiety, which are, in turn, associated with shorter telomeres.

Avoidance alone is probably not enough to harm telomeres, but it can lead to chronic stress arousal and depression, both of which may shorten your telomeres.

http://ideas.ted.com/could-your-thoughts-make-you-age-faster

Thought awareness can promote stress resilience. With time, you learn to encounter your own ruminations or problematic thoughts and say, “That’s just a thought. It’ll fade.” That is a secret about the human mind: We don’t need to believe everything our thoughts tell us. Or, as the bumper sticker says, “Don’t believe everything you think.”

Secret to true confidence 

Opt out of the vicious race of comparing to others and becoming critical in our self-judgements!

https://www.inc.com/jessica-stillman/is-this-the-ultimate-antidote-to-insecurity.html

“The only people who desire to be better than everyone else are those who feel inferior. The need to ‘outshine’ everyone is actually born of fear and weakness, not strength,” he believes. If, instead of wanting to beat others, you want to be kind to them, to understand them, to feel goodwill towards them, your insecurity will melt away, McManus claim.

You don’t need more motivation or inspiration to create the life you want. You need less shame around the idea that you’re not doing your best. You need to stop listening [when] people who are in vastly different life circumstances and life stages than you tell you that you’re just not doing or being enough,” she writes. Quit comparing and just be where you are, she advises.

Another story relatable!

http://www.bbc.com/travel/story/20140803-the-bloom-of-cancer?ocid=fbtvl
This could be me. 
After the devastation of my marriage breakdown, I was wrecked emotionally and physically. My mental health and sanity was pushed helter skelter. I was so fearful and certain that I would be struck with cancer during my episode of mental breakdown.

Her journey wrote was somewhat like mine. I had bucket list made in my mind and I went on few trips then, fueled by my wanderlusting thirst. I also had same revelations in life. That I was awakened to be someone who thrives to survive in life instead of being helpless victim of life circumstances. Her storytelling struck a chord in me.

I read and I related

http://www.contiki.com/six-two/travel-helped-overcome-depression-anxiety/Her telling of her struggles are similar somewhat to mine. 

My 3 indicative symptoms of a troubled mind with mental dis-cognition is :

1) My personal space is cluttered and messy. It needs cleaning far more frequently than I can manage. 

2) Procrastination and lack of energy to get life in sorts and in flow. Brain fuzz!

3) Lack of “voice aloud”. The strength in your voice subsides. Ordering a coffee is a challenge in my soft voice. To make matters worse, I slur words sometimes.

Collateral damage from being caregiver

http://www.straitstimes.com/opinion/mental-illness-caregivers-are-forgotten-collateral-damage

Burden of care

IN THE practice of medicine where the patient is the focus, it is easy to forget – to use a military metaphor – “the collateral damage” on the family.

In scholarly literature, this is often referred to as the “burden of care”, which is of two categories, the “objective” and the “subjective” burden.

Objective burden includes the impact and consequences of the illness on family life that can be observed and verified, including marital conflicts, curtailment of social and leisure activities due to fears of stigma, and financial difficulties.

Subjective burden refers to the raft of feelings the caregiver experiences – sorrow, anger, anxiety and guilt.

Studies have shown that during the acute phases of a serious mental illness, one in 10 caregivers experiences a distressing breakdown in communication. When patients became well again, their relationship with caregivers usually improves. But this is not a given. Sometimes, the hurt, the anger, the fear and the disappointment permeate the relationship.

Hard work is needed to resolve these destructive feelings.